Chapter 5: The Role of Circumstance Part 16, Conclusion
As a technical writer, Mary’s life changed dramatically for the better. She started working normal hours, and was recognized and appreciated for her work. Interestingly, it took her about three months to accept the new lifestyle. “I kept asking myself when is it going to get crazy again.” Now she wishes she had made the move earlier. “I just feel like I suffered for longer than I needed to [in my previous position]. This year has been a recovery year. I haven’t felt guilty about the number of hours I work. If I leave at 3 to work out and get the kids, I don’t feel guilty about it. I was getting my work done, and was still moving the position forward.”
It sounds like more than just moving forward – Mary was recognized and complemented by the General Manager at the summer picnic, something that never would have happened in her previous position. Moreover, Mary is still connected to the high profile project, which allows her to leverage her previous experience and contacts.
At the start of this chapter, I wrote about the illusion of control, and how it applies in the workplace. There is so much that happens which is beyond our control, but as humans we are naturally susceptible to the illusion that we can control far more than we actually do. And the consequence for these illusions, as Mary’s story illustrates, is unnecessary suffering. To paraphrase Viktor Frankl, we cannot control what happens to us, we can only choose how we respond.
In the next chapter, we’ll cover the biggest thing we cannot control – the overall company culture.