Chapter 7: Secure Your Identity Part 5
In the last post, I wrote about a Midwestern VP I called “David” whose company-first value system led to 100 hour weeks and a stroke before he was fifty. And while David recovered fully from the stroke, he was laid off less than a year later. “Maybe I don’t have it anymore,” he told me in a quiet voice. I knew exactly what he meant, because at one time the value I gave myself came from my job. And I also knew that if I hadn’t changed my life a few years earlier, it could have been me with the stroke.
One thing David did have was a strong family – a good marriage, and three kids, a daughter in college and two boys in high school. To make a long story short, David used this experience to change his life, which is markedly different in the next job. David reconnected with people first values. In order of importance his priorities became:
- Personal Health
It’s not that work is unimportant to David, it is just not as important as his health or family. And this translated directly into a different set of priorities and decisions. For example, David:
- Took a spontaneous trip to see his daughter in college
- Stops working at five because he wants to have time to cook dinner with the family. Previously, he was on calls and email till eight, and would get off the phone starving and crabby, running out to Taco Bell for dinner. Yes, power male VP loves to cook.
- When traveling to the corporate headquarters, he goes to the gym instead of going early to the office.
None of these changes is earthshaking in and of themselves, but they all stem from a shift in his personal identity, and they are now the rule instead of the exception.