Chapter 7: Secure Your Identity Part 9
“Sebastian Tate” describes himself as an outlier in the business world, not because of his results, but because of his priorities. Meet a balanced achiever at work.
“I never had the drive to be President or VP. I made that decision pretty early. [For me] work needed to be interesting. If I’m doing work I don’t find interesting, I’ll go look for another job. I’ve always made decent money, and I’m not an extravagant person, so I never felt like I needed to make a lot more money because I needed to have more stuff. If for whatever reason [work] gets out of balance because you get a shitty situation, I start looking for another job, to find a situation that works for me. I may be different than a number of people that you talk to, that want to be king of the universe. But that’s why I’m still doing product management at 50.”
Sebastian is tall and wiry, with close-cropped hair, and a slow, deliberate speaking style that can drive an East-coaster like me crazy at times. But he has that Buddhist calm that makes you want to listen. I asked Sebastian if he ever felt work-related guilt.
“Guilt is something that you impose upon yourself. You either accept it or reject it. I always found it pretty easy to reject it. If someone comes to me with a last minute request because they did a shitty ass job planning, and then try to make me feel guilty, it isn’t going to happen. I don’t know where I was when I learned it, but I learned to try to replace guilt with responsibility. It’s a much healthier emotion.”
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