Helping the Chronically Overworked Find Life Balance

Do Americans Really Scoff At Six Weeks Vacation?

Beaver. He is happy and likes to work. And you? by Marcos Zerene via Flickr CC

Beaver. He is happy and likes to work. And you? by Marcos Zerene via Flickr CC

What would you do with six weeks vacation?

I remember starting to get antsy on the second week of my honeymoon. It was the first two week  vacation of my professional career. I was a post doc, who thought science was a higher calling. And as wonderful as my honeymoon was, I was ready to go back.

When I was in the heart of my corporate idolatry, six weeks of vacation would have been out of the question. It may still be for me. There is something in the American spirit that says we should be working all the time. And while we often see this as a virtue, it isn’t healthy.

I read an interesting comment from Internationalist Shawn Mitchell to a recent post of mine on Google Plus. “Having lived in Europe a little while now, I must admit to admiring the Europeans’ approach to ‘Life Balance.’Many Americans will scoff at the idea of having more than 2 weeks of vacation a year, but our friends over here consider 6 weeks to be a good starting point.”

Merriam Webster defines scoff as “to treat or address with derision.” Do Americans really scoff at the European practice of six weeks vacation? Yup. I remember doing so myself. We used to plan around Europe shutting down in the office.

“Q3 is a tough quarter because Europeans are on vacation.”

“Better get feedback from so and so about the launch plan because he will be gone for most of the summer.”

Each of these was delivered with a little role of the eyes and/or sense of exasperation. Didn’t they care about making the numbers? What I now understand is yes, they care about making the numbers, just not as much as they care about living a good life.

In America, vacation is ok if metered out in reasonable doses. Even our two or three weeks vacation doesn’t always get taken. At certain companies, employees regularly run up against the maximum vacation accrual limit. Company policy says “use it or lose it,” and they apologetically say they will have to take Friday off or they lose the day. Why is there a sense of shame about taking a benefit that we have earned?

So what would you do if suddenly your company offered everyone six weeks vacation per year. And, your take home pay and other benefits remained the same? Would you take the six week? What would you do with the time? Does the thought scare you?

Just for fun, make a list of everything you would do if you had six weeks vacation this year. A month in Hawaii? Work 4 days a week for 30 weeks? Fixing up your home? And not just this year, every year. Is it an invitation to buy that vacation house on the lake, or is it a prison sentence, to boredom and time away from the company you love?

Now, make a list of every fearful thought that goes through your head about taking six weeks off. Are you afraid the company would fall apart, or that someone else may politically get the upper hand? Are you afraid the vacation will be held against you? Are you afraid that you won’t know what to do with your time? Will the time off bring you face to face with an empty house or an unhappy marriage? Are you afraid of judgment from peers at work, and from your inner critic?

What do these lists say about your identity, and what is really important to you? If you feel there would be a gaping hole inside of you if forced out of the office for so long, it’s time to find something outside the office to fill that gap.

Of course I wouldn’t know what to do with six weeks off. And I advocate greater life balance. Only in America.

Help! I’ve Fallen Into Work Idolatry

Book collection via flickr I am running a contest design the cover for “Busting Your Corporate Idol.” The average contest lasts seven days, and gets 100-200 total designs. This one has over 300 designs in just 3 days.  Many are outstanding, and picking the winner will be hard.

The contest runs through July 2.

But how do I pick? This isn’t really about me, it is about readers. This book would be no where without the 15,000 of you who read the blog. THANK YOU!

Would you like to help find the best possible cover? This is an eBook only, and I need something that will jump off the Kindle page and pull people in.

It is pretty cool- see for yourself at 99designs. You can leave feedback by design number below in the comments through July 2. I am having polls on a regular basis, where you can rate covers 1-5 and tell why. Keep an eye on comments for the latest info. I will send your feedback directly to the designers, and they are very responsive.

Here is how 99designs works. You write a creative brief describing what you want in the design, designate prize money for the winner, and begin a project. Designers from all over the world submit covers, and then revise based on your feedback. If any of you ever worked with me on a creative project in marketing, you know that I have a lot to say. I am having a blast. I always liked working with creatives on ads.

Some people feel 99designs and other sites like this are exploitive, because only one person gets paid, and the rest are working for free. I don’t see this as exploitive, any more than submitting a blog to the Huffington Post is exploitive. Everyone knows the conditions, and people submit for a variety of reasons. In some parts of the world, the $299 prize is a lot of money. Many are building a portfolio, while getting feedback every day.

There is a personal downside to the fun I am having. The book cover and editing has taken over my life. In the last 3 days, I’ve missed turns when driving. I got confused about when to pick up my daughter from camp, and had to pay for being late (literally and figuratively). Last night I started cooking dinner 45 minutes, and had to cram some food down to get my daughter to an event. I kept look at designs while a tape ran in the background. You have to stop and start cooking. You have to stop and start cooking. We are running out of food because I haven’t gone to the store. 

Yes, I am having a mini-outbreak of idolatry, because my work is getting in the way of my primary job as stay-at-home parent.

Looks like I need to read my book again before this week becomes a lifestyle.